I have been struggling to get a full night of sleep, have regular workout sessions at home, eat what I enjoy without getting constipated the next days, go out at night just to have that breath of fresh air and so much more. We have 2 kids and we love them immensely. However, still, there are times when I just need my freedom and the spontaneity that we used to have before having kids. There’s nothing I would like to trade with and get back to our old lives without kids where we just sat every evening on our couch and binge-watched movies, series, and whatever we found available at that time.
Do kids change your life? Yes, absolutely! Do they make it difficult? Well, that’s subjective. They bring a lot of new aspects that you have never imagined. Even if you know people with kids or have been living in a family where your siblings have kids, believe me, you are clueless until you have your own. Having kids is different for all parents. Independent of whether you were told or not about how a kid changes your life, you can never foresee what is yet to come. For me, personally, our kids brought us immense happiness and pure joy. Serene love and strength that I did not have before. What else? Of course, sleepless nights, stress, anxiety, worries, planning, and a messy home came along with it.
This is what it is. This is the difference. When people say kids will change your entire life, are they saying the truth or just exaggerating? Well, they’re true to an extent. Your life does change, as you will be now focusing on these tiny humans and you have to take care of them. You have to make sure that you make a decent, humble, loving, smart, and emotionally strong human being out of them. They will come before you and your partner. You have to make sure that they’re safe and others around them as well. You have to take care of them even if you’re sick and unable to take care of yourself. But is it worth it? Yes, ABSOLUTELY!
At the end of the day, this is a different life than what you had before having them in your lives. So your personal time might be gone but now you have time with the purest of hearts. You can have your time and relax while having your partner or a trustworthy family member or a friend babysit your kids. Get rejuvenated and come back with a bang to enjoy your family time. Planning less and lowering the scales on the expectation level indeed helps a lot. Remember, a different life doesn’t mean a difficult life. It can be challenging and energy-draining but is it worth it? Yes. Am I saying this from experience? ABSOLUTELY!
Indian Girl in Germany 