I became a mother, I birthed a child, I breastfed it and tried to make it sleep, and I breastfed it again. I brought it home, adored it, and breastfed it again. I bled for days, terribly. I had pains, backaches, sleepless nights, sweating attacks and I kept feeding the baby and you.. what did you do this whole time?

You stood right next to me; drove like crazy in the mid of the night and brought me to the hospital when the labor hit me. You calmed me in pain and helped me relax. You stood next to me when the baby entered this world. You held her, before me and comforted her like her mother. When I slept you took her out. In between the breastfeeding you changed her diaper, you made her sleep, you walked and walked and walked – until your backache started – you continued walking to calm her. You saw me crying without anything going wrong. You stayed right next to me, at all times. Literally and figuratively. You heard my nagging excuses, handled my tears and emotional bursts, and kept calm.

You let me go to work after 9 months and took the responsibility for our daughter and home. You did not stop me from achieving my dreams, rather pushed me to do more and supported me with everything you could. Not that you are doing anything new, but something that others do not do. Due to the very societal structure and framework that is built for husbands. You did not do anything unusual, but something that is not expected – explicitly – but is required from each husband; needless to say each father. Fathers play an equal role in making the baby, then why not play an equal role in its upbringing? Mothers need a break from the endless jobs of just taking care of their kids and household. They need support from their husbands and other male members of the family to keep the car running. Raising kids isn’t a mono-cycle job, but a bicycle that needs both mother and father for a pleasant ride.

This society needs a change for the better, for good, and for an amazing upbringing of our new generation. The generation which will decide the future of our world. And I am sure, we do not want to see only mono-cycles on the road, or do we?

LOVE
Nikki